Leah
So many unasked questions that shall remain unasked as the fear of the unknown outweighs the power of curiosity.
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Shannon: What an ultimately regressive approach to life.
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Leah: Well, unasked in terms of people. These are questions of people. Not anything technological or existential. Or philosophical or scientific, for that matter.
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Shannon: I knew what you meant. The statement is still valid, my friend. 
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Leah:
I am aware. haha. How silly, I’d rather question my own existence and that of those around me, than to ask a question of another human being. I suppose, that, people lie. And whilst you can try to lie to yourself, deep down, you know it’s a lie. So, by trying to ask myself if I believed in God or what it is I feel about a certain thing or event, I still, deep down know the answer. Conversely, asking another person how they feel about an event or a certain thing or even if they believe in God, of if they believe that we even exist at all, we are faced with the dilemma of whether or not they are, in fact, being truthful about their true feelings and therefore, the person’s integrity and intentions.
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Leah:
Further more, this poses further doubts and questioning of the value of trust and friendships. Is it really that important if some one lies about not liking the colour yellow? Does that really mean that you cannot trust them to tell you the truth on important matters, and less important, but still personal issues. Does that question of trust extend to life or death? or does it extend to trusting that that friend won’t steal from you or allow someone else to harm you?
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Shannon:
I thought your status was regarding asking questions of potential deceit from person(s) you trust, that, if you were to find out the truth, would leave you emphatically hurt.
If this is the general state of peoples perceptions when engaging in potentially insightful conversation, if we mistrust another words for the sake of mistrust, then this is ultimately a reflection of ones internal problems rather than the receiving individual. Resorting in this kind of perception would obviously have origins from society itself — all with a sense of mistrust. I think, fortunately, it is not entirely all doom and gloom and we still have a sense of compassion that can prevail.
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Shannon:
Well, potential deceit has varying origins, I guess. To lie about liking the colour of yellow would indicate the person is insecure and is avoiding conflict to the extent they are unwilling to express their opinions on even trivial matters; it wouldn’t be an indication of maliciousness. Because, really, that’s stupid! Important matters would be independent from the colour yellow. If this person that cannot express their opinion on the colour yellow needs to be critical of you, then you probably can’t trust them — but once again not an indication of malevolence, rather fear.
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Leah:
You are almost correct, however, it’s more that people’s actions and reactions are leaving only confusion and more questions. If I were to form a belief based the behaviour I can observe, I could pertain that that is actually what that person is thinking and/or feeling. However, I could ascertain the origins of this behaviour by simply asking why they are doing what they are doing. However, the unwillingness to form an assumption leads to one being completely unsure of anything and doubtful of any kinds of speculations made. It also suggests feelings of vulnerability due to hesitation about making assumptions based on observations and hesitation to even ask the questions to avoid having to make an assumption. Vulnerability leaves negative feelings as it places you in an unmovable position, where in which, you are required to trust that the other person in the situation will not take advantage of you and misconstrue the truth or manipulate you.
I agree, however, that mistrust does not lead to “doom and gloom” and hopelessness. By being someone that is honest, truthful and virtuous, we offer the opportunity to be trusted and in turn, to give trust. Compassion doesn’t always need to be present to trust, but it makes the transition from mistrust to trust a lot easier and smoother.
And herein lies my point about the importance of mistrust: Is it relevant to consider that a person lied about like a colour when it is a real matter of importance? I think not. It petty. However, it potentially may be an issue when it does come down to more meaningful issues: if said person was unable to be honest on such a minor topic, would that make them liable to dishonesty for deeper matters? And does it only matter because of that fear of being lied to?
